19th Week in Ordinary Time 2022 - Friday - Divorce and Accompaniment

When the Pharisees approached Jesus and asked him a question about marriage, they were not seeking to learn, like we Catholics seek to learn from Jesus about God and how to live. They were looking to trap him.

Remember, earlier in the Gospel, John the Baptist was arrested and killed for his teaching on marriage. John had claimed that King Herod’s “marriage” to the wife of his brother Philip was unlawful. 

To ask Jesus about marriage was to invite him to criticize the same king and suffer the same consequence. It was a trap.

But the Lord speaks truth anyway. Not only is it unlawful to marry someone who is already married, it is impossible. Divorce, in the biblical sense, the severing of the marriage bond, is impossible. It is impossible to sever the marriage bond of two people whom God has joined.

And this is the consistent, unchanging teaching of the Catholic Church for two thousand years. 

Our current Catechism, in number 2384 states “Divorce is a grave offense against the natural law. It claims to break the contract, to which the spouses freely consented, to live with each other till death. Divorce does injury to the covenant of salvation, of which sacramental marriage is the sign. Contracting a new union, even if it is recognized by civil law, adds to the gravity of the rupture: the remarried spouse is then in a situation of public and permanent adultery.”

Now, the Catechism in number 1649 recognizes “that are some situations in which living together becomes practically impossible for a variety of reasons” such as in the case of abuse. “In such cases the Church permits the physical separation of the couple and their living apart.” But, “the spouses do not cease to be husband and wife before God and so are not free to contract a new union.”

And there are cases in which some marriages, assumed to be valid at the time of the wedding, are later investigated to be null due to a number of invalidating circumstances. In these cases annulments are able to be granted.

What should we, attending daily Mass, take away from this teaching? Maybe we do well to consider: what can we do to help Catholics lives out in fidelity to God this teaching on marriage? What can I do for the “divorced” Catholics in my life? 

My own parents, by the way, had their marriage declared null. The annulment process is often the road fallen-away Catholics need to walk in order to return to the Sacraments. 

Likely, like John, like the Lord himself in the Gospel today, we are called to speak the truth with love, patience, compassion, and courage. But not just to speak  the truth, but to accompany our loved ones, walking with them side by side, doing whatever way we can to help them live for the glory of God and salvation of souls. 

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That all Christians may seek to be faithful to the Lord’s teachings and commandments concerning marriage and the family, that Christian families may be filled with love and joy.

For all married couples, that they may be faithful to the Gospel in every dimension of their married life and give all an example of God’s ever-faithful love.  

That the children of our parish and school may be blessed to know the grace of faith-filled families, that they may be shielded from the sins and errors of our culture.

For Pope Francis and for all the bishops and clergy of the Church: that they will be faithful to the preaching the truth of the Gospel especially in the face of secular pressure and persecution.  

That the sick, lonely, elderly, homeless, widowed, and all those experiencing trials or suffering of any kind may be strengthened by God’s love and know His comfort and peace.  

For those who have died, for all deceased spouses; that they may know the eternal peace and joy of the kingdom of heaven.